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Barack Obama reveals fears for his marriage to Michelle

The couple have been married for 28 years

Hannah Hargrave
US Deputy Editor
November 25, 2020
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Barack and Michelle Obama are the epitome of a power couple but the former President of the United States has revealed the pair hit some very dark moments when he feared for the future of their relationship.

Barack navigated his time in the White House with Michelle and their daughters, Sasha and Malia, firmly by his side.

But behind closed doors, the former POTUS admits there was tension and stress within his family and he couldn't sleep for worrying about it.  

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"There were nights when, lying next to Michelle in the dark, I'd think about those days when everything between us felt lighter, when her smile was more constant and our love less encumbered, and my heart would suddenly tighten at the thought that those days might not return," he wrote in an excerpt released by ET from his new book A Promised Land

Barack has revealed their marriage was strained during the eight years he spent as President telling People magazine: "Michelle very much believed in the work I did but was less optimistic about what I could get done.

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The family have come out strong

"She's more skeptical about politics and more mindful of the sacrifices to the family."

Once they left though, they were thrilled to be able to get their longstanding marriage back on track.

"It was like a big exhale right after we left office," he said. "It took some time to talk about how she had felt."

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Barack and Michelle are right back on track 

He continued: "You know the old adage, 'If mum's happy, everybody's happy'? It very much applies in our household."

Now life is fantastic for the pair and Barack revealed Michelle "has been more relaxed and joyful" and it’s allowed them "to be friends again."

Their relief that their daughters have also turned out "pretty good" means Barack and Michelle can "laugh and goof off and have more time with each other," too. 

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