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I feel sexier going into my 70s than I did in my 20s

A new wave of midlife women are reclaiming their sexuality, proving sex doesn't end as we age

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Wellness Editor

November 22, 2024Nov 22, 2024, 4:00 PM GMT

HELLO!'s Second Act columnist Rosie Green, 50, wrote that post-divorce, she has "found a new freedom" when it comes to sex, sharing: "It's been an incredible bonus to discover my sexuality."

Explaining how sex has become important to her again in midlife, Rosie revealed: "It took me a divorce to understand how important intimacy is to a relationship and thus your happiness."

Rosie is part of a new wave of midlife women reclaiming their sexuality, including Tina Pemberton, 69, who recently re-entered the dating game and is sharing her experiences on her 'Tina Goes Dating' series on TikTok.

Woman smiling in a floral print dress on a purple background — Tina Pemberton is dating again at 69

"I feel more sexy going into my seventies than I was in my twenties," she says, adding: "I was so self-conscious when I was younger but I've got to the age where I don't give a damn. And because you don't give a damn, you exude self-confidence – but it's taken me all these years to realise it."

Rosie and Tina's takes on sex in their forties and beyond are refreshing, especially when a new study from LoveHoney revealed that 54% of Brits think people should stop having sex after a certain age simply because of their body being older.

1. Sex shouldn't take a backseat

Judith Vandepeer Delgado, 62, is a burlesque performer and teacher who is passionate and open about the power of dance to boost body confidence and help people feel sexually empowered.

Judith Vandepeer Delgadon says our sex life isn't over in our 60s

"Your sex life over 60 doesn't need to take a back seat and it doesn't deserve to be treated as something to be hush-hush about," she enthuses.

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2. Body confidence plays a part

Judith notes that a lack of body confidence could be the reason sex falls down the priority list as we age, explaining: "Body confidence can take a nosedive as you get older but it's so worth taking the time to accept and love yourself fully, which for me includes being open, playful and fully embracing your needs and desires around sex and intimacy."

3. Forget what others think

"As an older woman, you probably know yourself pretty well and have grown to care less and less about what people think about you and what they consider is the 'correct' way to behave as you age. Be bold, be fearless and above all - make it fun!" encourages Judith.

4. Taboos are made to be broken

Suzanne Noble, 63, is the host of the podcast 'Sex Advice for Seniors', a show dedicated to tackling the challenges and taboos around sex and relationships as we get older. She's passionate about everyone enjoying a fulfilling sex life, no matter their age and says: "It's important to break down the taboos around having sex in later life.

Woman in check dress smiling against a purple background — Suzanne Noble is the host of podcast 'Sex Advice for Seniors'

"The more we can normalise conversations around sex and ageing, the easier it will be for society to consider sexual pleasure as an essential for healthy ageing."

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Suzanne notes that while sex might not be the same as when she was younger, and things take a little more time, there's nothing to be ashamed of. "I always use a vibrator with my partner and it's about removing the shame of needing extra help," she says of using sex toys in midlife.

5. Sexual reawakening can happen at any age

Tina shared that when she was going through perimenopause, sex was so painful she thought she'd never want to try again – until she connected with an "amazing friend with benefits" sharing: "I have never had such amazing sex."

Passionate about breaking stereotypes about getting back out there later in life, Tina hopes to empower more people to do the same, sharing: "A sexual reawakening is possible at any age," she says. "A lot of people think sex just stops as you get older, but while you might not look the same, you still feel the same."

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HELLO! originally launched its Second Act hub to reframe midlife and beyond as a celebratory, exciting new chapter full of endless possibilities. From inspirational tales of women who refuse to fade into the background, to valuable advice on navigating relationships, finances and health issues – we've featured them all. And such has been the overwhelmingly positive response from readers, we are now turning the hub into a FULL and FREE community where women like you can come together to shape something truly inspiring.

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